Wednesday, January 21, 2015
Hippocrates famously said: “Make a habit of two things: to help; or at least to do no harm.” Add one more important habit to his list.
Always tell the truth.
I have always raised my children to be honest, I think there’s nothing so bad in this world that you can’t tell the truth about, and things can be fixed if you tell the truth.
On the other hand some people are compulsive liars and they tell such elaborate stories that they forget what they’ve told and who they’ve told them to, and then when they are starting to be discovered they turn the blame on to the honest one.
I am talking from experience.
It’s not a nice feeling. A compulsive liar tells stories to garner attention and you start to feel sorry for them, and then you think “Oh my gosh! How awful!” and you think “Maybe there’s something I can do to help?” Maybe we should contact the parents and give them a heads up? At least that’s how I work. But then time goes by and the story has been slightly changed, maybe it’s a little thing like the day or the time, and then someone tells you something different and you start to put things together and before you know it… the original story is a total web of lies… I detest liars! I Think I detest liars even more when I know that MY child was in the right..
And Liars never do well, they cheat to cover their lies and cheating always hurts someone. And they get mean too, because they’re scared of getting found out.. and Liar’s parents are even worse, because they “want” to believe their child, how could their child tell such lies?? it must be the other person who is lying.. And then they are in denial.. because they simply cannot believe that THEIR child would tell such amazing lies.. even when the person who is truthful can back up their lies…
I am a Mother, I will fight for my children and I have raised them as I have been raised. But even as a Mother when you gut instinct is screaming at you about something you know is NOT a good idea, they eventually must grow up and fly the nest… and I am biting my tongue so hard right now not to say “I told you so” but I am also biting my tongue right now because I so badly want to tell the Liar’s parents the truth about their Child. I put myself in their place and if MY child was in a such a mess and such a tangled web of lies and deceit I would want to know, I wouldn’t like it and I would find it hard to deal with my I would deal with it. I’ve prayed about it and journalled about it and now I am silent, because I just don’t know what else to do..I am like a simmering pot.. and one more bit of heat I may very well explode..
I detest liars!