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Family…. How do you live with out them?

Borrowed from wikipedia…

In the context of human society, a family (from Latin: familia) is a group of people related either by consanguinity (by recognized birth), affinity (by marriage or other relationship), or co-residence (as implied by the etymology of the English word “family”)[citation needed] or some combination of these.[citation needed] Members of the immediate family may include spouses, parents, brothers, sisters, sons, and daughters.[citation needed] Members of the extended family may include grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, nephews, nieces, and siblings-in-law. Sometimes these are also considered members of the immediate family, depending on an individual’s specific relationship with them.

Families come in all shapes and sizes. By blood, by marriage, by soul ties, by chance.

These last three weeks have really defined for me MY family.

I gave birth to four children, and I inherited our eldest by marriage with my husband, we made a deal when we blended our families and added our Star Son, that we wouldn’t say “Step son or daughter” they are our children. We have Five Children, and those five children have so far, given us six Grandchildren. Then we add in the “in-laws” we have a son in law, and a Dutch Daughter in law, and a lovely girl we call “daughter” who is dating Star Son, they are 17, still young and time to add the “In Law” to her name, but in the mean time, she is my family, and the Grandchildren call her “Aunty”

Families are such touchy things, they can work and be brilliant or they can fail miserably. I grew up with “half sisters” it was always made known, I found out on my 25th birthday I had a full blooded Brother, who had been given up for adoption at birth, we share the same blood, we grew up for the first 25 years of my life as strangers, but when we met, there are resemblances that make us “Family” as well as DNA etc etc. For me personally family has been a failure. I decided very early in, I would be a different Mother, different from the one who raised me, and I have succeeded. I have gotten on better with my “In Laws” families more than my so called “Family”

So these three weeks have for me cemented the fact that I have done something right, when stuff goes bad, family step in.

Star Son tore his ACL, MCL and Meniscus in his knee the last Sunday in April. Then started all the Doctors appointments and tests and scans, and through it all his brothers and sisters have been beside him, calling him, checking in, driving him places, baking him food, visiting him to keep his spirits up. Our eldest son is travelling and so in another state but he keeps in touch via Facetime. And Star Son might not admit it, but he loves that they check in. This past week has been extra hard for him with infection invading his knee and then his blood system, resulting in him needing two more surgeries and so today is day 7 back in hospital.

Today he and we believed he would be coming home, and so his eldest Sister had made plans to come visit so his niece and nephews could see Big Unca! Today the drips came out, the drainage tube came out yesterday, today he says “Mum lets go for a walk” and so very slowly we did stopping to sit and rest as needed.

We made it to the hospital Cafe and found a seat when his phone buzzed, Facetime with number one sister and Faerygirl and Squishy, on the way to school, they wanted to say hello! He was wrapt! He chatted briefly and then hung up, we made our way back up to his ward, the phone buzzed again, it was big brother number two, he has just started working and was on his morning break, he wanted to check in, they chatted briefly and then said Goodbye. Again, he was wrapt! Just lately, he’s been feeling like he’s been dumped in hospital and forgotten.

He had surgery last Friday and as he came out of surgery, his girlfriend and her Mum were there waiting to see him, his other family, who treat him like he’s part of their family. His girl friend, her Grand Mother even chats to him on messenger checking up on him, FAMILY, they might not be his Blood but they are in his heart! His number one Sister and her family came to visit a little while later, looking back at the photos he was pretty out of it and the told me today “I can’t really remember them being here, I was too tired” and very very sick.

Family… they’re there when the chips are down. Later this afternoon number one son, sent him a funny little video saying “Kebabs before Abs” which his beer belly hanging out and Star Son laughed out loud, a sound we haven’t heard lately, and I thanked Jehovah for one silly Son making one sad one laugh! It was a lovely sound. It didn’t last long when the lovely Nurse Demi told him “Sorry dude you won’t be going home today!” He lost the sparkle in his eye and there were no more laughs.

Friends are great if you have the right ones, I am blessed to have one who has been with me for over 30 years, and on Saturday she trekked to the hospital to see me so she could hug me, she lets me off load all my woes, she gave Star Son a hug and she left, blew in and out like a fresh breath of air and she’s kept in touch via text every day, thats TRUE friendship, I once read a quote about how “Friends are the family you give yourself” and giving myself Lady Hawk was the best thing I ever did. But friendships these days are not made equal and its showing this past week, where very few if any of his friends have made any effort to check in and see how he is. My heart breaks for him. His girlfriend and her Mum visited Friday, they visited Saturday when they heard how low he had gotten and then on Sunday we brought her in for the day with us its a 45 minute drive each way, so we brought her with us and then gave them some time to be together. She’s clever this girl. She ordered Uber Eats- Subway and he actually ate! She’s a gem! She is our Family.

I watched a series on Television, I cant recall the name of it, but the theme song touched me Family by Mother Mother it really relates to MY Family.

This morning, we had a small person climb into bed with us, she snuggled up and went back to sleep, I opened an eye and there was this beautiful little face right in front of me. Yeah it was early and I really wanted to sleep a bit longer, but then as I lay there watching this face, this second generation of my Family, I thanked Jehovah for being right where I was. I’ve been focusing on how awful all the stuff with Star Son is, I had forgotten to look at my blessings, so I snuggled that little warm person, and smelt her hair and watched her little eyes crack open and smiled as she sleepily said “Hello Grandma!” And the song echoes through my head “They is my family!”

NaNoWriMo has started!

Let the writing begin!

National Novel Writing Month… is November and last year I signed up when I heard about it from my fellow blogger Corrina. That book which I called “September Moon” practically wrote itself and I smashed the 50,000 word count for the month.

This year I have decided to finally write that travel memoir that I’ve always wanted to write, so today it began. First day, I forced myself to stop at 4,006 words. I’m happy with that start. This month is also my busy work month, I only work one month of the year, and a few odd days here and there, I am a Chief Exam supervisor and that means I do the setting up, supervising of, collection of the exams and take them home to await the courier. The first day was yesterday, English is the biggest in number and the longest exam. Today it was psychology and smaller group and less time 9.00 am till 11:45am. So November is my busy month.

Last Month I did my first “Inktober” art challenge, which meant that all the prompt for that had to be drawn in ink. I got mixed messages, some people said only to write in ballpoint pen, some were using real ink, some were painting with ink, some were using ink markers, some used colour, some none colour. Confusing much?! I ended up using ball point pen and the odd marker, and some I added a touch of water colour paint to.

At the same time, I participated in #Jentober with Jenny Manno over at Next JENeration Art in a Facebook group. So Jenny offered prompts and we were invited to interpret them in any medium. I had never heard of most of the characters, thank goodness for Google!

Then over in #Kickinthecreative another Facebook group, I chose the challenge #outandaboutOctober, because I knew we were going away to Cairns. The idea here was you take your sketchbook out and about with you and paint, or sketch what you see. I did that a few times, bit the rebel in me ended up taking photos and using them at home sometimes. Some days I felt like I pushed myself too hard, especially when I slipped behind for a few days. But at the end of the month I am so happy to look back and see what I have achieved! One thing I did achieve was I stopped pre drawing with pencil and just started painting with watercolour. Yay me!

In #kickinthecreatives this month, I am doing #kickcollageNovember each day we are to make a collage, whether it s a whole image or just a background or some element of collage.

Here are some I prepared for today.

So I will check back in and update you on NaNoWriMo, if you are there and want to add me as a buddy my user name is Kkitten. Lets get writing!

3.54 am!

The alarm will go off at 4:00am. The taxi will be here at 4:30am and our flight leaves at 6:30am! We’re off to Far North Queensland to a sleepy resort town called Mission Beach. Remind me to tell you about the time we accidentally discovered Mission Beach and how we all left our hearts there.

So on the first Anniversary of my 50th Birthday and planning a mini getaway, of course I would choose Mission! Today we leave for five glorious days and apparently the weather is going to be superb!

I’ll be back later! With photos and updates!

October has begun!

October is fairly busy for us.

We had a lovely camping trip from Thursday 27th September until Monday 1st October.

We had two of our children join us the two eldest ones and three and a half of our Grandchildren.

Squishy is 4, Faerygirl is 2 (going on 21!) Little Dude is 9 weeks old and Belly Babe is still in utero!

Little Dude- 9 weeks first camping trip.

Squishy boy- 5 in December caught the ONLY fish!

Faerygirl know known as Camping Chick! 2 yrs old bathing in a tub!

We had a great time although no internet reception was slightly a pain.

Today and tomorrow l am sitting with my cousin who is house bound while she recovers from surgery.

Today we watched the movie “Victoria and Abdul” it was a great movie! Plus we did some art.

On the subject of art.. I promised you all l would post a flip through of my art journal for missing the last few days of the month in regards to my art.

Now even though the #blogfestseptember is officially over l solemnly do swear to stay in regular touch with y’all… I’ve missed blogging be honest.

This month in #kickinthecreatives

I’ve chosen to do the prompt #OutAndAboutOctober so that means out of my house and sketching in public or somewhere not in my house.

Here are day one and two…

Day one- Ursula our camper before we left Carter’s Beach.

Day 2- Charlie’s house on my back deck technically l was out of the house lol.

Have a great week everyone!

Chat soon.

September 30- Relaxing!

Relaxing.

Dear Tara and Sandra,

By the time you read this poem, I’ll be on the banks of river

Camping.

Soaking up sunshine, and probably damaging my liver,

With too much wine, and too many songs

Relaxing and doing nothing wrong.

Camping is my happy place, to feel the sunshine on my face,

Kick off my shoes and feel the sand beneath my toes

Stare into space and let my mind wander wherever it goes!

When we are camping, not much gets done,

We might fish, drink wine, do art have fun!

Away from home I’m free to be me,

Relaxing under the swaying gum trees!

Another month has come and gone,

#sketchathon, #BlogfestSeptember and #poetember are done.

I’ve drawn animals, machinery, trees and more

Written poems and lines and rhymes galore.

As always much fun has been had, even made some new friends.

But all good things must come to an end,

Looking forward to Octobers challenges-

Working out the prompts sometimes takes some balancing.

Thanks again for challenging me.

#poetember #kickinthecreatives #blogfestSeptember

September 29- Something fun

September 29 – Something fun.

Something fun!

This could be a tricky one, because

“Something fun” is different to everyone.

Whats Fun for me, might not be for you

Just like, I love green and you love blue!

“Something fun” for me is, camping!

Although they way we do it- has been called glamping!

It doesn’t matter what you call it, spending time in the great outdoors

Wins hands down from doing mundane chores!

“Something fun” for me is travelling, hopping on a plane,

Or taking long road trips, I’ll never complain.

Seeing the world around me is so much fun!

I can never imagine saying “I’m done!”

“Something fun” for me is being creative.

Whether its art,drawing or crochet, I find it to be very meditative.

When things upset me as they often might,

Scribbling in my journal gives such insight.

Gluing and glittering, slapping on paint,

Art is surely not for the faint.

“Something fun” at times for me can be- cooking

When Im in the mood, whip up a new recipe from a cook book

Or used a well worn recipe its worth another look.

Throw in a glass of wine and get outta my way-

I could work in the kitchen all day!

Then there are days when my “Something fun”

Is more of a laid back boring one.

When the rain is pitter pattering on the roof

I like to curl up with a really good book!

I can get lost in worlds far away, or somewhere much closer-

I can step into the life of a music composer!

My Dad often said “You always have a friend when you have a good book”

And “Never to judge a book by its cover” so I open a chapter and have a quick look!

So my “Something Fun” might to you seem a bore

But for me, reading a book is never a chore!

#poetember #kickinthecreatives #blogfestSeptember

September 27- Headwear.

Headwear

When it comes to headwear, there are lots to choose from.

There are peaked caps and golf hats and some that are dumb!

There are safety hats in fluorescent bright colours

a mortar board is worn by university scholars.

Crochet beanies and knitted pixie hats too,

Eskimo wear parka hoods inside their igloos.

Aussie Ackubra are made from rabbit pelts-

Bonnets of cotton and Fez caps made from felt.

Silky Skull caps to pray in, net hats for hygiene

Keep hair from food when you work in the canteen.

A tiara for a Princess, a Crown for the Queen.

A prettier sight I’m sure I’ve never seen.

Some people wear head wraps in colours so bright.

And boxing headgear are worn when in fights.

Helmets are worn by the rugby league players,

White powdered wigs are worn by judges and lawyers.

When attending the races, its custom to wear

a little pillbox or a big picture hat to hide your hair!

In days of old nurses all wore paper hats,

But the Sisters wore hats with wings like a bat!

Babies wear bonnets to keep their heads warm.

Captains on ships wear caps as part of their uniform.

Bee Keepers wear veiled hats to avoid a bee swarm

Some milliners have made hats an art form!

So you see there are many types of headwear

I think I’ll just stick to styling my hair

#poetember #kickinthecreatives

Art coming soon!